Friday, October 16, 2009

A Rare coincidence??

OK, so this week I have been contemplating the events that are to unfold next week. New MRI, and evaluation of all that fun brain radiation and the new medications I am on. Well, I am not bumming out about it, but I am a bit nervous, and nervous in general about being shoved back in the MRI machine. It truly makes you empathize with the struggles that burrito stuffing must suffer. I did get the Dr. To order some medicine so that I wont be feeling so much of the pain and anxiety that I got last time.

So now to the rare coincidence.... I have an uncle in seattle who had a bout with melanoma about 10 years ago. It was removed and he was in full remission. The same week I was diagnosed with brain mets, so was he. He started new treatments, although different treatments due to the type of brain tumor he had. The dr.s were saying that his treatment was going fine. Yesterday he woke up, my aunt heard him make a weird noise and went int other room to see him, and he had died. Just like that. He was not having symptoms that I know of. I know that his case has nothing to do with mine, and we are not even related by blood, however, it just seems to hit a little close to home today.

I guess in all actuality it should be a reminder for me to take each day, minute, prayer as if it may be my last. We have to take the most out of our time, Allah has already written how much time we have left, and there is nothing we can do to change that. I am at complete peace with that.....

16 comments:

iMuslimah said...

Salams sister-

Im sorry for your loss.

I think that you are right. It should serve as a reminder to all of us, and that we cannot change what is written for us...so thank you for that.

I wish you a peaceful next week, and good news inshaallah!

iMuslimah

UmmFarouq said...

Praying for your news to be positive. Love you so.

Need to hear your voice!

UmmFarouq said...

We lost Umm Zakaria on November 28, 2009, the second day of Eid.
Inna lilai wa inna ilayhi raji'oon.

I loved this sister more than I can ever express. She left behind a husband and two small children, along with hundreds of people whose lives she touched in the best ways.

I ask all of you who knew her to write about her, tell the stories and preserve them, so her children will have a treasure of remembrances to read when they are older. They will want to know who she was.

slevinblp said...

We lost a beloved sister and friend on Saturday the 11th day of dhul Hijjah and it was not easy for me to swallow.Umm Zakariyah or Sister Fatimah as I have always called her has affected and been a part of so many lives in a very positive way maa sha'Allah.She is truly a part of the fabric of this community and will truly be missed.I loved Fatimah as if she were one of my daughters and those beautiful children of hers...words cannot say the emptiness I feel for this space in my life that was my beloved sister Fatimah,
" may Allah grant this sister the highest level of Jannah firdaus,protect her from the torment of the grave and hellfire
and give her family peace and steadfastness as they go thru this time of loss.Ameen"

slevinblp said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raaji'oon

Unknown said...

What a lovely last line of her last post. That makes me so happy to hear that she was at peace with the idea of death. May Allah accept her in the highest levels of Jennah. I feel guilty that I barely knew such a wonderful sister, wife and mother. From my small interaction with her in person, on the phone and online, she was ultra-generous, funny, friendly, committed to the Deen, a true soldier of Allah. (In no particular order) She will be so missed. I am pleased to have known her just this tiny bit. Allah yarhomha. Um Omar in Jordan

SRG said...

I was a friend of Kirsty's long before she was Sister Fatima. I have posted a tribute to her on my blog at
http://annajune.blogspot.com/2009/12/tribute.html

If I have any info incorrect, you can let me know - I will be happy to change anything that's not quite right - I know she would tell me if I got some of the facts wrong. We haven't been close in many years - it has been a decade since I actually saw her, although, as I wrote on my post, we were planning to get together soon.

I will miss her so much.

iMuslimah said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajoon.

I only began following UmmZakarias blog Oct 2009. As serious as her situation was, one of her posts made me chuckle. She wrote about the anxiety she was feeling about having an MRI, and likened it to the plight of a burrito!

Imagine that, having so much weight on your shoulders, yet able to keep things light.

Her posts seemed very graceful, and I am sorry i never got the chance to learn more about her.

All of you- her friends and family and children, have my deepest and most sincere condolences.

iMuslimah

Sumaiya Umm Imran said...

Im very shocked and moved... subhanallah. Sis, you are a very special muslimah. May Allah swt reward you with the best, jannatul ferdous. Ameen.

In loving memory of sis Umm Zakaria
http://sumaiyasreflection.blogspot.com/

Safiyyah said...

May Allah (swt) forgive the sins of the sister, grant her the highest place in Paradise, and comfort her family and friends/Ameen.

Anonymous said...

After more than a year, I still cannot get thoughts of this young woman from my mind. Such a loss. I pray still for the family , especially the children. I did not know this brave soul, but heard of her thru my family. I look forward, for her and her family's sake, to a time of Paradise for the living and the dead on earth, when no resident will ever say again, " I am sick." ( Isaiah 33:24) ( I am not Muslim, and I hope I am not offending any by a referral to the Hebrew Scriptures......It is just the best that I am familiar with, and that is what I would want for this young woman and her Family... the best. Just to let you all know that there are those out here who still remember her.... .

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UmmFarouq said...

Happy Birthday Fatima. All these years I told everyone I was 4 years older than you. Just three! I miss you more than you could know. Keep visiting me in my dreams sweet friend.

Anonymous said...

Remembering a young woman with extraordinary grace.......

Anonymous said...

I SO hope that this family is in peace. I hope that the children are learning what a beautiful soul their Mother was. I hope to meet this amazing woman in the new world.

Cathie's Place said...

My daughter, Kirsty, had the most beautiful of anyone I ever knew. She was kind, thoughtful, intelligent and always wanted to help people. I miss her as much today as I did the day she was taken from us. Her children are beautiful and very bright. They don't remember her, but I try to inform them of who she was and what a wonderful person she was.

Kirsty, I miss you so much as wish I could have one more day, one more hour even with you to tell you again how much I love you.